Low self-esteem, no self confidence, and no looks. How to turn it all around?

Hello guys, name’s Shavian and I’m 20 years of age. I’ve have some experiences with gay men and by some, I mean about three or four in my life. All, of which, I met and felt terribly shy, awkward and downright well unappreciated. It would last only a couple of weeks before I became alone, yet again. Yes I’m a twink and no I’m not effeminate but I’m defiantly a bottom. (Not that anything’s wrong with being effeminate and that there’s any correlation between being effeminate and being a bottom.)I’ve always wanted to be with a real masculine, let’s build a house type of guy but when I see them I turn into jello and can’t operate, and I know that they’re gay. I’m 20, still look like I’m 16 and don’t know how to market myself at all. It’s awkward because I’m tall, lanky, I wear glasses, not muscular and I give off this “don’t touch me” vibe that others seem to listen to very quickly and be on their merry little way. I guess what I would like to know is, how do I pick up a man’s man? How to get pick up by a man’s man? How to stop being a dork? Tips, trademark skills, looks, social skills…. Anything would be nice. Thanks a lot guys.

Answer from a reader:

I wouldn't know about picking up guys but I can help you with your appearance and self-esteem. My advice to you would be to be comfortable with yourself, even if you really aren't just make it seem like you are. It is very attractive when a guy has confidence in himself and feels good in his own skin. With helping you look a little older than you look I would suggest maybe changing your style a little, hairstyle and the way you act to a more mature person. I myself am very awkward as well so I know how you feel about interacting with guys lol I'd say when talking to a guy you are interested in relax and be yourself. Flirt, make him laugh if you can. You could play around with him and like push him away or something (in a playful way) to test out how he reacts to it. If he pulls away then that isn't a good sign but if he smiles and/or does the same then that is a good sign. Tease them sometimes, this makes them somehow very interested in talking to you for some reason lol Try to be more comfortable with guys (or at least seem that way) and some amazing guy will someday come by and want to be with you :)